I was having dinner tonight with long time friends Chicken Lady and Blueberry (names have been changed to protect the "innocent".) and we all decided it was time for me to bite the bullet and tell the crush I like him. I know. I know. Many of you, and by many I mean EVERYONE, has told me I need to make the first move. But you see, I'm a girl, if you haven't noticed, trust me I am. And I kinda like the idea of the guy making the first move. That being said, I think if I don't make any move, nothing will happen. I mean, my god it's been 1.5 years since the crush started...then it stopped...then it started again.
So here are a few suggestions I've received:
1. Have a friend email him or post a comment to his blog. What would the comment or email say? "JENN LIKES YOU."
Pro: It gets the point across real quick, no minced words.
Con: It's high school all over. "Hey Vicky, will you pass this note to Mike in gym class? I really like him and can't get up any nerve to be anywhere near him. Thanks."
2. Chicken lady suggested a visit to her parlor ( she provides a service to people and it's not what you're thinking you dirty minded lot) by a free gift certificate for "friends" of mine. While there, she could casually say, "JENN REALLY REALLY LIKES YOU."
Pros: He'd be relaxed and the point would get across to him.
Cons: See #1
3. Send a carrier pigeon with a note that reads, "JENN REALLY REALLY LIKES YOU."
Pros: Carrier pigeons are probably cheap.
Cons: Said carrier pigeon could poop on him, and that would be bad.
4. Send an email that says, "JENN REALLY REALLY LIKES YOU."
Pros: It would definitely get the point across in a simple, efficient manner. I'd be much more confident in the written word, than in person.
Cons: If I misspelled a word it could change the entire meaning and he'd be even more confused...let's just say I misspelled "like" to "licks". I'm just saying.... AND... its the coward way out.
5. Singing telegram: How would that jingle sound exactly?
Pros: He's likely never received a singing telegram before
Cons: A singing telegram...I need to get a grip.
6. Find a song that says what I'm feeling and send it to him on a CD.
Pros: He likes music
Cons: There are so many I can't even begin, the least of which I'm jolted back to college in which Evil X boyfriend sent me a "song" after I broke up with him. What song? Well, the first line goes something like this, "Shot through the heart and you're to blame...you give love...a bad name." So while I do know of a song that would fit this situation perfection there are two issues with it. 1) its country and he hates country and 2) it's country.
7. Send a e-card. I do have one in mind and it would be cute and it would say, "JENN REALLY REALLY LIKES YOU."
Pro: It's cute and funny. To view it click here. Second Row. First card titled "Go Out with Me."
Con: It's not any different than sending an email.
8. Or I can send him a link to a this.
Pros: Again, there'd be no questions
Cons: The guy is a wee bit creepy.
While all these are fantastic ideas, I think the end result is I'm going to have to put on my brave mask and just do it. I mean, what's the worst thing that could happen. He could just say he wants to be friends. Well, actually the worst thing that could happen is he could go running from the room screaming, but I doubt he'd do that.
Any other suggestions?
13 comments:
Oh, OH, let me, let me do it!
9. Have Mom call him and tell him.
Pro's: It's Mom
Con: See above
Here's the wording you are looking for:
"You know, I've never met anyone like you before. Usually when I meet someone new I feel awkward and shy. But with you it's different. I can talk to you. You know what I'm thinking without my having to explain to you in fancy terms. We speak each other's unspoken language... fluently. I love you".
You could rework that?
BUT he's a guy, so you could simply say:
"Remember that every relationship starts with a one night stand".
That will get his attention. You girls are always looking for a reason to make love. Us guys are just looking for a place.
Oh paleeze let the brother in on this one............I know just the way.....and the stories I could tell.......it would go over so easily.
Oh Sis, "buck-up" put your "Big Girl Panties on" (sound familiar?), walk up to him and plant a huge wet kiss the boy!!!!
No words necessary!! (written or spoken)
Go for it girl!!!!!
1. Vicky and I never had gym class together.
2. Our notes weren't so nice about the people who were not us.
3. All of our notes went back and forth in History class, if I remember correctly.
Why don't you just ask him out to lunch or dinner or just drinks?
XOXO
Mike.
feeling cranky tonight. I would suggest sending my 7yo to tell him. He doesn't mince words :-)
Put it on a Jones soda bottle "oops, how'd that get on there? Wanna kiss?".
He probably wouldn't read it in a ecard since those have been targets for viruses lately.
Ummm... why not send him your blog url, or ask him if he has seen your blog, or if he has googled your name yet? The blog post would speak for itself :-)
On the other hand, the 7yo is being sent your way as I type. grrrrrr! Feel free to keep him until the duty is done :-)
Mom - ah no. I have a track record that's not so good with bringing guys home to meet the family. One moved to FL and one we thought was gay.
Rabitt - So men are the same no matter which version of English they speak? Good to know.
Bro - See Mom's answer above. And ironically, I was going to use the "big girl panties" phrase, but chose not to...
Mike - You're old. You're not remembering things correctly. We passed notes in study hall too. But you of all people should know because I had a huge crush on you in high school too and never said anything. Of course I couldn't since you were sucking face with my BF... = )
Solje - Keep the kid. I clearly have my own problems.
I'm with Bro - today.
It's gonna be "jr. high" if anyone else does it. If you want him, tell him. I was the one who called my man after meeting him for the first time. After reminding him who I was (we'd met 2 hrs earlier) I asked him out, and August 1 was our 26th anniversary. It works. He's intitiated plenty of stuff since then. Just not that first date.
I'm with Chicken Lady...you just need to suck it up (no not that) and tell him how you feel. If you don't, you're just going to regret it later...especially when I fly up there one weekend, kidnap him, bring him to your place and lock the two of you in your bedroom (you know just in case you get any ideas) and wait for you to tell him....the beginning of my evil plan (insert mischievous laugh)
Chica, I am the LAST one to give advice on this, since my own unrequited love is pregnant with someone else, but I beg you to tell him - I regret that I never did, and I don't want you to feel that way.
I don't know about any one else, but I am tired of the debate. For goodness sake, I agree with "Bro" (which ever one that is!) JUST DO IT! And, yes, this is mom speaking. Maybe I threat..."If you don't, I will tell him!"
Don't know if you're still reading these comments, or if you still have the problem, but a song that would really suit your situation, and you could send it to him or something, is called Why Don't You and I? And it's by Chad Kroger, and there's another one by Santana, but that's harder to find. I'd say it would work really well.
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